I asked multiple genderfluid people questions about their personal experiences of genderfluidity and have shared them under the personal experiences pages.

Question: What made you realize that you are genderfluid?

"I know when I was younger, I would think about things like 'What if I was a boy'? What could I do then? I ended up cutting my hair in a bob cut to get short hair like a boy while still being considered "girly." I ended up pushing those thoughts out until I was about 16/17. I found myself thinking more about wanting to try boy clothing like shirts and ties but it was confusing because I still loved dresses and makeup (at the time I though this meant I want to be a boy; I didn't understand a lot of things). When I finally turned 19, I cut most of my hair on a whim and got a close fade haircut and was so happy. I decided to go with this feeling and brought a men's tie to try on. I learned how to tie it from a YouTube video, and I was over the moon. I slowly started experimenting with different clothing and researching what gender identities were. I came across the term genderfluid and demi-boy, but genderfluid felt more right for myself." - Ess, she/they/him

I first thought I was a binary trans person - when my gender doesn't align with my gendered physical features, I have dysphoria about them, and I just assumed that was the only answer. Once I found out the label trans, I thought that was it. Then my gender changed again. I feel really connected to whatever my current gender is very strongly, so it was hard to remember the times I was a different gender and how I felt then. I changed my labels a lot (“I'm a girl! no, I’m nonbinary! no, I’m bigender! no, I’m girlflux! no, I’m a demiboy!”) , thinking that I just hadn't previously found the correct one, before realizing and accepting that my gender is fluid and changes all the time." - Kiley, pronounfluid

"I have had bouts of dysphoria for a long time, but didn't call it dysphoria out of internalized transphobia. I was lying in bed one night when I realized I would really prefer They/Them pronouns. While I was questioning if I was nonbinary, I started to learn more than I had known about gender (I had been friends with a couple of trans folk for a while, but didn't fully grasp certain concepts), and it became clear to me that my gender wasn't as fixed as I thought it was. I have a genderfluid friend, so I had already heard the label and started researching it. After some trial and error, it's the one I ended up noticing suited me best." - Morgan, he/she/they

"I didn't have a big realization and before that I didn't even label myself trans. I was looking at the internet and saw someone explaing what genderfluid is and I was like I guess that's me. But then there was a time where I was going through the I'm trans ->I'm cis-> I'm trans thing with an impostor syndrome but then I felt with my whole self the exact moment my gender changed and it gave me peace. Since then I haven't really questioned my genderfluidity." - Nill, he/she/they

"What made me realize I was genderfluid was when I was 18, I had suspicions beforehand but at the time I was so fixated on wanting a set label for my gender before realizing that's something that couldn't really happen. I would be okay with it at times but otherwise I wouldn't. It's like my gender would change periodically. I think my main thing what made me realize I was genderfluid was paying attention and recording what I was feeling at the moment for my gender. One week I was a man, then I gradually felt my gender shift from being a man to a bigender male/female. Later on it was nothing to everything. Then just a woman. I never had the ability to be able to sit on one gender label until recently, being genderfluid. Even my genderfluid label is fluid, but overall that's the summary of how I realized I was genderfluid. Never was comfortable with one set in stone label and found myself recording my gender identity, settling on fluidity." - Cain, it/he/she

Question: What genders do you experience being fluid between?

"I would say that I go between girl - agender - mix of girl/boy - boy." - Ess, she/they/him

"I experience quite a few different genders! I am fluid between female, male, demigirl, demiboy, agender, bigender, genderqueer, and multigender. Probably more too, but I can't think of them right now. I almost feel like if a gender identity exists, I have identified with it and experienced it as a part of my fluidity before." - Kiley, pronounfluid

So far, I've experienced these genders (In no particular order): - Male - Female - Nonbinary, general - Demiboy - Demigirl - Bigender (He/She) - Agender" - Morgan, he/she/they

I'm very fluid, I don't think there is a gender I won't shift into. This includes xenogenders." - Nill, he/she/they