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more genderfluid people talking about being genderfluid! yay!
Question: Do you express your genderfluidity in any outward or inner way? If so, how?
"When I do feel more agender/boy/mix I like to refer to myself as Rye or Ryland. In a lot of video games I usually play I choose the male option and use this name. I do have a mix of clothing I can switch to for however I choose to present myself, although clothing I wear doesn't necessarily match the gender I am (a.k.a. traditional boy clothes when I feel like a boy)." - Ess, she/they/him
"Yes. Depending on my gender, I change my clothes, labels and pronouns. I also refer to myself differently depending on my current gender. On a girl day, I might put on lipgloss and “womens” clothes, and I use she/her pronouns as well as referring to myself as a girl. On a day when I'm genderqueer, I’ll usually wear a mix of feminine and masculine things, and use they/them pronouns. I also have a bunch of different pronoun pins (for example: she/her, he/they, they/them, zae/zaer and more), and I change them based on my current gender." - Kiley, pronounfluid
"Yes, I do! I have wardrobes for Masc, Fem, and Nonbinary days. I can typically mix and match for any of my other genders. I also use pronoun bracelets to show what pronouns I'm using at a given moment. I do refer differently to myself in my head, especially with saying stuff like "Morgan, She's..." or "Morgan, He's..." generally help me determine my gender for a given day. I generally do a lot in this category." - Morgan, he/she/they
"The clothing I wear or the way I act doesn't change depending on my gender unless it's a specific type of masc day. I have like 5 outfits I wear then (+ binding). I also pay more attention to how I act around people but that's probably becuase I feel the need to do something to pass. On the other hand I have a very different way of referring to myself depending on my gender I switch between pronouns and words I'm confortable with. Sometimes they don't match with my gender so like I will feel like a boy but use for myself she/her (my first language is very gendered)." - Nill, he/she/they
"How I present is always masculine, I just highly enjoy presenting as a masculine being over anything else. Masc dude, masc woman, masculine non-binary, just masc." - Cain, it/he/she
Question: What does it mean to you to be genderfluid?
"For me being genderfluid is changing how I see myself internally and being at time to express that externally. I can be Ess or Ryland, and decide if I want to be in a suit or dress. I don't have to decide if I want to be one binary because that doesn't fit who I see in the mirror." - Ess, she/they/him
"For me, being genderfluid means that my gender isn't static and never will be. It means changing the way I express myself pretty often. It means finding new ways to express myself and feel gender euphoria. On the negative side, it also means that I will never be able to transition to a body that alleviates my dysphoria completely, because that would be a different body for each gender. It's beautiful to be genderfluid. It's finding euphoria in different things on different days, different genders. It's being ever-changing, always unpredictable. It's struggling with that unpredictability sometimes and finding joy in it other times. It's being a girl in the morning and agender in the afternoon and a boy the next week. It's containing multitudes." - Kiley, pronounfluid
"To me, being genderfluid means that one's gender isn't static. It changes, even if it's very gradual changes. I think the big difference between general trans and genderfluid though is that genderfluid people know that they are and have been comfortable with the other genders they've been, and not just using intermediary steps if that makes sense?" - Morgan, he/she/they
"It's a hard question, I'm not sure how to answer. The most basic definition of being genderfluid is "somone who switches between genders" and I just rolled with it." - Nill, he/she/they
"For me to be genderfluid, I think it means the world to me. It was a new opening to change that helped me find comfort in myself and allowed me to be more open with my identity and expressions. I don't have the words for this one but it means the world to me and I'd never change my genderfluidity for the world." - Cain, it/he/she